Sex, Love and Blue Balls

Sex Myths Busted

Most people are too shy to talk about sex honestly. We've busted some of the most common myths to bring you the truth (And no, your mate probably doesn't have a 14 inch penis.)

I'm not normal

Hairy nipples, droopy boobs, lopsided balls – everyone has insecurities. And then there's what and who you find sexy... But chances are you share most of your concerns with other people – who are also too shy to discuss it – and have some unique quirks. That's as normal as it gets.

You can't get pregnant if you have sex standing up/on your period/the first time you have sex

You risk pregnancy every time you have sex, so have safe sex every time, unless you want a baby. Sperm can survive in the body for several days and it takes one to get someone pregnant. The condom* or female condom is great for safe sex and it protects against Sexually Transmitted Infection (STIs). Better still, you can use them with other forms of contraception to be extra safe and STI-free. If you've struggled with condoms, try different sizes. For more information see Sexual Health & Family Planning Australia and follow the links to your state Family Planning Association:


While you can't get pregnant from oral sex, it can still spread STIs.

If you love someone, you have to have sex

Pressuring someone to have sex before they are ready is not loving, and having sex does not 'prove' love. Everyone feels ready at their own time (a few people never feel ready at all) so take it at your own pace.

Oral Sex is Safe

While you can't get pregnant from oral sex, it can still spread STIs including gonorrhoea, herpes and chlamydia – and orally transmitted STIs are currently on the increase. For safer oral, use flavoured condoms on a man and dental dams (latex squares) to cover a woman: both are easily available online. If you get cold sores, don't give oral while you have one as they are a form of herpes and can spread.

A man will die from blue balls if he doesn't have sex

Lack of sex can't harm men or women. You might feel frustrated, tense or horny but even though the ache can feel real, it does no damage. Masturbation helps relieve the frustration so let your fingers do the walking...

*condom use may help reduce the risk of transmission of HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

*condoms can help reduce the risk of pregnancy