When we think of sex, we might think of rampant, high-energy, “I must have you right now” sex. But sex doesn’t always have to be a race to get to the finish line. Sometimes, when you get home after a stressful day at work, the last thing you want to do is get your sweat on – and you definitely don’t want to start thinking about sex like it’s work too.

But this doesn’t mean you have to boycott sex altogether if you want a relaxing evening. There are plenty of lazy sex positions which are less strenuous and energy-intensive to give you the perfect way to unwind in the bedroom. Great sex isn't always about high energy – sometimes taking a lazier approach can work wonders too.

Great sex isn't always about high energy - sometimes taking a lazier approach can work wonders too.

Curled spoon

For a romantic and intimate position that requires little effort, get the receiver to lie on their side with their knees bent in towards their body. By penetrating from behind, the giver can enjoy gentle lovemaking that doesn't require lots of energy but still offers great arousal.  The ability to look into each other’s eyes can heighten the romance and increase the pleasure without turning up the energy. This is a comfortable sex position for both people as the receiver can have lazy sex lying down, whilst the giver can comfortably hug their partner to their own body for better support.

Legs bent

Similar to missionary position, the receiver lies on their back with their legs bent and feet pressed together. With the giver lying on top, the receiver can wrap their feet around their partner’s back and use them to gently guide them further inside to enjoy deep penetration with minimal thrusting. Again, this one allows both partners to look at each other which can heighten the pleasure without needing to increase the pace. For extra stimulation, the receiver’s hands are free to play with themselves, or even run their hands over their partner’s body – or they can just lie there and embrace the lazy sex position!

Lying on top

If you want to make love in a way that promises great penetration and intimacy but minimal effort then try this classic. The receiver lies on their front whilst their partner lies on top of them, penetrating from behind. Not only does this offer good depth of penetration but it also requires minimal thrusting which is perfect if you're both tired. You can make it sexier by having the receiver squeeze their legs together giving a tighter sensation for the giver – an easy, small move like this can make a big difference in pleasure. This lazy sex position also increases the points of contacts between both people as both bodies are tightly pressed against each other – like a hug with a happy ending!

Lap special

For a position where the receiver is in control, get the giver to sit in a chair or rest on a sofa. The receiver then climbs on top of their partner’s lap and rotates their own hips slowly, gyrating and easing onto their lover. This is a great way to slowly build arousal through foreplay and still promises a great climax at the end. The giver can rest comfortably on the chair whilst the receiver rests comfortably on their partner – it’s a win-win! This is an ideal position to add some heat by passionately kissing each other or whispering in your partner’s ear to let them know how good it feels. Who knew sitting down could be so fun?

The lazy doggy style position

As the name suggests, this lazy sex position is like the doggy style position, but in this version the receiver lies on their front, rather than being on all fours. It’s similar to Lying on top but has the added bonus of having a pillow under the receiver to elevate their butt. This creates a different angle so when the giver lies on top to penetrate, it triggers a different sensation with minimal thrust. The giver can either stay propped up on their knees, like in the doggy style position, or they can embrace the lazy sex and lie on their stomach on top of the receiver, for an intimately relaxing but pleasurable experience.

Bath-time fun

For something fun as well as arousing, get your partner to join you in the bathroom. Run a hot bath with plenty of bubbles, and a few candles for romance, and slide into the tub. Set the tone by engaging in some mutual foreplay first, to get you both in the mood.

When you're ready to bring your lovemaking to its climax, get the receiver to lift their legs up and rest them on the edges of the bath, allowing the giver to climb on top and penetrate. As the receiver is still in the tub, movement will be limited so it's an ideal lazy sex position if low on energy. Alternatively, the giver can stay facing opposite and slide the receiver onto them. This way you can both get comfortable with this lazy sex position and simply go with the flow.

Take care as you move around in the bath environment as it can be slippery not only for you, but for condoms too. Condoms may slip off more easily in the bath or shower and can easily go unnoticed.

Lazy sex doesn't mean boring sex

All of the above sex positions are designed to help you and your partner achieve a satisfying orgasm with minimal effort but lazy sex doesn't have to mean boring sex. Enjoying low energy sex positions isn't an excuse to forgo foreplay so make sure that both you and your partner give each other the attention they deserve.

Use massage products to get each other in the mood and increase intimacy. You can also consider using sex toys as an alternative to penetrative sex if one of you has more energy than the other.

Lube can be used to ease penetrative sex or the use of toys to make it more comfortable - ensuring those lazy days are spent in the best way possible.


This article is for general information only and not intended as a substitute for medical advice.

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