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Sometimes the build-up to sex can be just as, or even more enjoyable than the act of sex itself. From the passion, suspense and anticipation of what’s to come, foreplay can be both exciting and exhilarating for all involved.

Looking to up your foreplay game and get him in the mood? Whether you’re a novice or a seasoned pro, here are 8 tips to take foreplay to a whole new level. Discover how and when to start the tease and take it all the way to the wild sex you’ve both been longing for.

1. Be naughty and tease during the day

Foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Make sure they’re on your mind and they know exactly what’s on yours from dawn to dusk. So long as you’re both on the same page, being a little naughty can be nice too. If you’re out and about or apart for the day try teasing your partner with sexy texts or pics to slowly build up the excitement. Use what you have around you to play to his senses and get the imagination running wild. A little note to let your partner know your nipples get hard when you’re thinking of them can go a long way.

2. Start with a head massage

When your spouse or partner has had a long day at work, offer them some stress relief in the form of a sensual head massage. The scalp is home to many sexual stimulation spots, so let your hands gently caress theirs with slow circular movements to really get them in the mood. Play around with pressure – a firm touch and a light caress and whatever gets them going – keep going!

Once you are done with the scalp, sensually work your way towards the neck and shoulder area until you reach the trouser department, which is where the fun really begins and it won’t take long to get them in the mood! Again, play around with different strokes, pressure and speed. While you might not be down to the business end, their anticipation will certainly be growing.

3. The thigh rub

During your dinner date or night at the movies, use your hand to gently stroke their thigh with slow, firm movements up towards the groin. Feel your partner’s erection grow and leave them longing for the bill to arrive or for the film to finish so that they can whisk you home and into the bedroom. A little game of footsie can also go a long way. Dare to gently touch whatever exposed skin you can find beneath the table. Be sure to use eye contact to leave no ambiguity in what you want, and when.

When you’re home, continue the body exploration. If you need a little extra moisture, Durex Play Massage 2in1 gel with aloe vera is gentle enough for body massage and can be used in intimate areas as well.

4. Undress your partner with your eyes

During sex, eye contact can be very erotic whilst adding a sense of intimacy to the moment. Similarly, during foreplay, you can use the same technique to help whip your partner into a frenzy.

Explore what turns you both on the most. Perhaps they find it thrilling to start the seduction out in public? Try catching your partner’s eye when you’re out and about and leave them in no doubt of what you’re thinking of doing to them when you are finally alone.

When you’re in the bedroom, move your hands down to your partner’s penis and try holding their gaze as you stimulate them. If things progress to oral sex, keep your eyes glued on each other as you treat them and watch their enjoyment grow as they get closer to climax.

5. Drive them crazy with a striptease

The sight of their partner, scantily clad and moving around provocatively is bound to drive anyone wild, even more so if it’s the person they love. The first step is to make sure you’ve selected your sexiest outfit that’s easy to remove so that, when the time is right to take things to the bedroom, you know you’re fully prepared. Sometimes stripping down to the bare essentials or starting the strip, leaving some buttons undone can be a great way to get things going.

Once you’ve chosen your sexiest outfit, put on some sensual music with a strong baseline and let your striptease routine commence. Remember to close the curtains to ensure it’s for their eyes only.

6. Touch yourself

Not one for the timid, self-masturbation in front of your partner can seem a little daunting. However, it doesn’t have to be. Turn the lights down low, strip down to your underwear and start slowly caressing your body whilst passionately kissing your partner. This alone should be enough to get them in the mood and bring on their erection.

If you want to take things further, take your hand down in between your legs and get to work in right in front of them. When touching yourself, be sure to have Durex H2O water based intimate gel at hand. Let your partner use this mighty little gel on you by rubbing it on you.

7. Lick their lobes

This is a little trick to try out during a passionate kiss. Starting at their lips, move your way around to the cheek and then over to the left ear. Blow lightly on the lobes before nibbling, sucking or licking them gently to increase the stimulation. Gently move your way back to their lips and then make your way to the opposite ear.

The ear lobes have hundreds of nerve endings and are considered by some as an erogenous zone, so this flirty trick is near guaranteed to give them a thrill. Due to the ear’s sensitivity, increase your partner’s pleasure by being as slow and as gentle as possible. This ear-kissing session will certainly drive them crazy and get them ready for a ride to remember.

8. Talk dirty

Following on from the above, talking dirty to your partner can turn them on even more. Whilst teasing the earlobes, take the opportunity to whisper some naughtiness into their ear to really drive them crazy. Fear not, what you whisper doesn’t have to be rude or obscene. Nor is it about getting them to finish quickly. Explore together what gets them geared up and ready to grind.

By simply telling them that you want them now, or that you can’t wait to get them home, you’ll leave your partner firmly in the mood and wanting more. Including sex talk can really heighten sexual tension during initial foreplay which may even intensify the pleasure when you actually get down to sex.

Are you a bit of a newbie when it comes to dirty talk? Why not check out our top tips for how to talk dirty in our Ultimate Sex Talk Guide. Or maybe you want to learn more about all things sex? Head over to our Explore Sex blog now.

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